Violence against women (VAW) is one of the most pressing issues in Indonesia. A 2016 national survey on women’s life experience found that one in three women in Indonesia became a victim of physical or sexual abuse (UNFPA, 2017). In 2019, The National Commission on Violence Against Women (Komnas Perempuan) documented 431,471 reported cases of violence against women, most of which were sexual abuse in personal and community spheres (Komnas Perempuan, 2020). Both government and non-governmental organizations have made several efforts to address this problem, including preventive and curative interventions. While most preventive interventions had involved men as one of the primary beneficiaries, very few curative interventions had been directed to assist men.
Rifka Annisa is one of the very few organizations that carry out curative interventions for both victims and perpetrators of violence. Rifka Annisa is a women’s crisis center located in Yogyakarta, Indonesia. Each year, it handles more than 300 cases of violence against women, primarily dominated by domestic violence and sexual abuse. Initially, it only provides psychological and legal assistance for survivors as well as a safe shelter for survivors in a threatening situation. In 2004, Rifka Annisa expanded its counseling service to assist male perpetrators to change their abusive behaviors.
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The male counseling program is part of Rifka Annisa’s strategies to address violence against women. It draws from Rifka Annisa’s experiences in dealing with hundreds of domestic violence survivors who refused to leave their abusive husband. Instead of applying for a divorce, most victims chose to keep their marriage due to different reasons such as economic dependence. As a result, the cycle of violence continued because the abusive husbands did not receive any intervention to change their offensive behaviors. Such a situation inspired Rifka Annisa to develop a program that can help families overcoming problems and eliminating abusive behaviors in their households.
The male counseling approach is relatively different from the females. It seeks to transform toxic masculinities’ beliefs and values into positive ones and help them learn anger management, interpersonal communication skills, and conflict resolution. A male counselor is assigned to each male client to make them more comfortable during the counseling process. The counselors help the clients reflect on their experiences of being men and discuss how it shapes their perspective and behaviors. Aditya Kurniawan, one of the male counselors, explained some of his clients’ characteristics. It includes having low self-esteem, feeling not-respected as the head of the household, and having traumatic experiences (Rifka Annisa, 2020). Although most men often hesitated to share their personal stories, some of them who did could adopt positive masculinities such as being more respectful and supportive partners.
In a lack of male involvement in gender and development initiatives, Rifka Annisa’s male counseling program can provide insights into how we can engage men in addressing gender-related issues such as violence against women. As Carmen et al. (2017) and Agarwal and Panda (2007) suggested, gender norms grounded in hegemonic masculinities are one of the main factors that perpetuate gender inequities. Assisting men to overturn their negative masculinities may help to dismantle unequal gender norms. Therefore, we should stop seeing men as the problem and start seeing them as part of the solution. It is time to dismiss the women-only approach and start involving men in gender and development works, particularly in violence against women interventions.
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Rifka Annisa. (2020). Konseling Bagi Pelaku Kekerasan; Jalan Lain Mengentaskan Kekerasan Berbasis Gender. https://rifka-annisa.org/en/news/blog/item/727-konseling-bagi-pelaku-kekerasan-jalan-lain-mengentaskan-kekerasan-berbasis-gender
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